Ah yeah I get you lol, my bad.
It's weird to me because these BL novels clearly have sex in them but you just... can't call a penis a penis. Also apparently the author had to rewrite part of one of her other novels because it was too explicit, so.
Also there's a scene where the protagonist is monologuing about how he doesn't know how sex between men works and he thought it was just hands and moth and you're done and then his husband (sorry, cultivation partner) sticks a finger in his ass and he's very confused. But he goes with it.
It'll be interesting to see if this novel goes anywhere beyond kissing and awkward boners. (It probably will, I'm only on chapter 148 out of 244.)